RelationSHIFTS Part 1, Bible Study 02/10/16

Posted on February 16, 2016 by growintheword

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Synopsis of Bible Study 02/10/16

Delivered by Bishop Walker III

 

Relationships are complicated and take work. It is important to know that they also go through seasons. These seasons are called shifts. When you connect with people, you have to connect with people that can navigate between the shifts in your life.

To give an example, some people are ok with you while you were making money, but when the season came where you were no longer making money, they were nowhere to be found. Regardless of the relationship you are in, shifts happen!

Psalm 139:14 (NKJV) 14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[a]  Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. – This is a declaration about our identity. It is about knowing who I am and how God made me. God didn’t mass produce you. God made you unique. He fearfully and wonderfully made you. No one on the planet is like you!

Knowing who you are and how God made you is important.

3 things that determine our standards:

  1. Our moral convictions – The word of God governs our ethics and values. This then develops our moral standards. My moral conviction then guides my standards.
  2. Personal value – Ex – For some of us 40 and above, we grew up in a house that had a china cabinet. In it was fine china (plates for those who are not old enough to remember). You didn’t just put anything on these china plates. They were special. There was value placed on this china. Tupperware was not as valuable and it was treated as such, but china was treated with care. There were sometimes that you would even throw Tupperware away, but not china. In like manner, how you let yourself be treated has something to say about the value you place on yourself.
  3. Individual goals determine my standards – Everyone has a particular goal. It should be about where God is taking us and not where we are now. Standards should not be about where you are now. In your standards when considering being in relationship with someone, you ought to ask can this person handle where God is taking you? Make sure your standards say, “If you knew where I was going, you would know why I came.
    1. By setting standards, you are setting up your minimum requirements. If someone doesn’t meet your standards or your minimum requirements, it becomes a deal breaker. Recognize that deal breakers are important! Everything has a minimum requirement. Even your gas tank has a minimum requirement.
    2. Draw a vertical line on a piece of paper. On that line put 0 at the bottom, 10 at the top, and 5 in the middle. How would you grade yourself on this scale if you were to take your standards into account?
    3. There are a lot of things that determine where we are with our standards. Some people compromise their standards out of Some people compromise their standards, because of financials reasons. Regardless of the reason, we should try not to compromise our standards.

Establish God at the center of all relationships:

Matthew 22:37 says (NKJV) 37 Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’[a] , Deuteronomy 6:5 (NKJV) 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength., – We ought to love God with the very essence of who we are. If we don’t love God like this, then it will be hard for people to love us.

  1. Do you love God? There was a moment in life you were truly in love with someone. No matter what time it was or what the weather was like, you would drop everything and go to them when they called. Now you say you love God, but when they say it is going to rain or if we have service at another location, do you show the same dedication? If you love somebody better than you do Him, God will turn you over to yourself, because that person has then become your idol God.
  2. Loving God teaches you how to love yourself.
  3. Loving somebody the wrong way, can cause you to lose yourself. If you have to lose the essence of yourself to be with someone, then this is not healthy. Proverbs 19:8 says (NKJV) 8 He who gets wisdom loves his own soul; He who keeps understanding will find good. , Ephesians 5:29 says (NKJV) 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. -You must say, “I love me some me”. This is not about arrogance, we just love ourselves. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect somebody else to love you?
  4. Loving God teaches you how love works. 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NKJV) says 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

Let the Lord guide you:

  1. Seek God’s wisdom Matthew 6:33 (NKJV) 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. – We must first seek God’s wisdom, before making a decision to be with somebody. If God is silent, then we should keep still until he gives us an answer. Ex Bishop says when they were dating they used to bring the girls they were dating by to see his grandma Madea. Madea used to give only two responses. It was either, “Hey, how you doing!” or she would only grunt and remain silent. If she grunted, then you knew your date wasn’t the one. Silence speaks volumes. When God is silent, you don’t move.
    1. Deuteronomy 31:8 (NKJV) says8 And the Lord, He is the One who goes before you. He will be with you, He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed.”- Example: When somebody tries to get with you, you need to ask the Lord, “Is he the right one?” God will then go before you, but he will be back. While God is away, the guy you lick is running game on you. Finally, he or she is successful and as a result, you hook up with them before God gives you an answer. Now you have gotten ahead of God. When God returns with your answer, he has a bag full of stuff about this person you asked God about, but you didn’t wait. Now you have all that baggage to deal with after you have already invested time into him or her. The question is, how invested do you want to be in a person, before you find out how much baggage they have? You got to say to yourself that you would rather the baggage be dumped onto your porch instead of inside your house.  We try to blame the baggage that we found out on the devil, but the truth is, it was simply a matter of us getting ahead of God. Don’t get me wrong, you can cope with the baggage, but it is nice to have a choice before hand.
  2. But God has great plans for my life.
    1. Jeremiah 29:11 (NKJV) says 11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. – God’s plan extends our finite understanding. God is trying to set the stage for you to have a partnership.
    2. Genesis 1:26-28 (NKJV) 26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all[a] the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. 28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”- God brought Adam and Eve together and God made certain that they were situated to have dominion in the earth. They were meant to have dominion together.
  3. Be fruitful and multiply. Notice that God said be fruitful and then multiply. We are not to multiply into that which can’t be fruitful. In other words, your mate should prove that you can be fruitful first and then you are clear to multiply. Ask yourself before getting into a relationship, what fruit are they producing? The goal in bringing you two together was the product that would come from the relationship. Fruit produces more fruit!
    1. Genesis 2:18 (NKJV) says 18 And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” – God wanted Adam and Eve to be able to help each other.
      1. Some ask if marriage a merger. Well it is the collision of two histories, but know that it can be like a merger.
    2. Being fruitful is not about being equitable in income or education. It simply means that we have like values. A wife and husband can’t change roles so to speak. If you connect with someone that you have to make get up and go get job or to go to church, then this isn’t right. You got to ask yourself, if you lost your job, could they hold it down?
    3. What if you were an investor and the company that wants to merge would say they don’t have any money, but they have a plan. Would you sign off on that? Would you sign your life over to somebody that can’t buy you a happy meal? It’s not about money. It is about This is not the gravy train!

 

Live a life of grace:

Hebrews 4:16 (NKJV) 16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.- Relationship comes from the Greek word schési (σχέση) which means, enlightening, charming, or pleasurable – All these things are things we ought to experience in a relationship. For example, what if there was a grocery store where on one aisle you could get life, joy, and happiness and on another aisle you could buy stress, bitterness, and misery. Which aisle would you fill up your cart from?

  1. God has given you grace so you might be whole. 3 John 2 (NKJV) 2 Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. – God wants you to be whole. When you are whole, you don’t need anyone else to make you whole. You got to be so complete that when people connect with you they are clear on the notion that if they act a fool, you can still be alright. If you are codependent on someone to make you whole.
  2. God gives you grace to keep you in seasons of aloneness. There are people reading this that are thinking they wished they had received this bible stud years ago. This kind of teaching prevents you from getting scares.

8 recommendations on standards you ought to have.

  1. I must feel attracted to the person – You must feel attracted to the person spiritually, intellectually, and physically. – Out of these three categories, what you are saying is spiritually (you can see they love God), intellectually (they challenge you), and physically (you are attracted to them). Some people might consider this as being shallow, but whichever of these you choose to compromise on, the enemy will bring you somebody in that area. For example, say that the person you chose is both good looking and intellectual, but they don’t go to church. You compromise on the spiritual by picking someone who does not go to church and then it doesn’t work out. From now on, Satan will send you good looking, intellectual, people that don’t go to church. Know that you have a right to choose all 3 of these.
    1. Being attracted to them is not shallow. You have the right to be attracted to what you like, because you have to spend the rest of your life with them.
  2. The person you choose must be trustworthy and faithful.
  3. The person you choose must practice self-care. They must brush their teeth, gargle, and dress properly. Men are visual folk women.
  4. They must have ambition and goals.
  5. The person you choose must bring positive energy into your life.
  6. The person you choose must feel safe with you (Men: You must make the woman feel safe).
  7. The person must be employed legally and they must be financially stable, in school, or building a legitimate business. They must be stable. Do they receive a W2?
  8. The person you choose must know how to effectively communicate. Can they articulate their thoughts without using a lot of slain?

 

Don’t settle for less

2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV) says 14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?-

  1. Don’t accept the leftovers of a relationship
  1. Refuse to be guilted into staying with a person, just because you have history with them.
  2. 3 litmus test questions for your relationship are:
  1. Has my love for God changed since I have been in relationship with them?
  2. Do I still obey the voice of God? Has the voice of the person I am with gotten greater than God’s voice.
  3. Is my commitment to God and the things of God increasing or decreasing?

 

Relations Shift!

 

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Releasing the Leader in you Part III, Bible Study 2/3/16

Posted on February 11, 2016 by growintheword

Releasing the Leader in you Part III

Manifestation (its time!)

Synopsis of 02/03/16

Delivered by Bishop Walker III

 

The Challenge in manifestation

  1. It is challenging to get people to see what you see. It is hard getting people to execute your vision.
  2. Isaiah 43:19a (KJV) says 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. –

 

Let’s focus on some words from this text:

  • Behold – I – new – now – spring – know. – Here is what God is saying in this in this scripture. God is saying, behold or look, I am doing something new. When is it happening? It is happening now and it shall spring forth!
  • Let’s examine the word spring in the phrase spring forth. A spring involves Anything that has springs, needs pressure. The greater the pressure placed on the springs, the greater the projectory of a thing. If you expect to spring forth, then you must expect that to be under pressure.
  1. As a leader, you got to get a point that where you realize that everything that God does, He does in his time. Know however, that there are two kinds of time.

2 kinds of time

  • Cronos – This is man’s time.
  • Kairos – This God’s time. God is not part of our time frame, His time frame is God’s time is not bound by our time. For example, if we ask for something on Wednesday, God will step out of eternity into Friday and work out a situation for us, and then he will step back into eternity while looking at Wednesday, just to see if we will praise him in advance (before it happens).
  1. God will interrupt your plans. Everything God does, he does in season and specific time. Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV) says 3 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: – Everything God does, he does at a specific season and time. You got to be in the right place at the right time the thing he promised you to be released.

You got to learn to discern when it is time to move

  1. Sometimes a Kairos moment will come when it is inconvenient to your Cronos time. This is when you have to have your priorities in order.
  2. You got to make every moment count. John 9:4 (KJV) 4 I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work. – You don’t have time to lollygag. The more you walk into your role as a leader, the more you become irritated at people around you that do nothing. Ralph Emerson quotes “Guard well your spare moments. They are like uncut diamonds. Discard them and their value will never be known. Improve them and they will become the brightest gems in a useful life.” – You should assign tasks to every moment in your life.

Learn to become excellent in your leadership role

  1. It is about mastering your moves. Fertilizer is manure, but the seed needs it to grow. The lesson to this is, you might have to wade through a lot of manure just to get to what God has promised you.
  2. There are two types of people. They are the passenger and the
  • Passengers – The passenger will let you drive forever. They won’t be proactive and won’t contribute. They will just respond to what you ask them to do.
  • Drivers – A driver on the other hand is an assertive person. On Monday they are given an assignment to be due on Friday and when Friday comes, it is done. Even if another person has to do their job, before this driver can do their job, they are assertive enough to hound them until they get what they need. A leader will stalk you until they get what they need to finish their task.
    • Some of you grew up like this: You went to the park and found that there was no basketball goal to play basketball on. As a result of there not being a goal there, you did not play. This is an example of a
    • There are others who went to the park and found that there was no basketball goal to play basketball on and as a result, you found a tire or a bicycle rim and nailed it to a pole, just so you could play basketball. This is an example of an assertive person (a driver). This person figures out what they need to do to make it happen.

You have to be an result oriented leader

  1. The biggest thing about being a successful leader is Make results happen and people will follow you. In order to get results, you have to make decisions. There has to be something about you that people see and want to connect to. People ought to want to connect to you, because you make things happen.
  2. You have to be connected to the right people. Don’t connect with people that don’t make you better. You ought to connect to people that make you better and likewise you ought to make people better, because they have connected to you.
    • Ex- Bishop often shares that he never wanted to be that pastor that had an eternal building fund. He didn’t want to be the one that took up money for years, but never built anything. Some people don’t know how to bring things to a place of completion.
  3. 7 things you need to do to be a result oriented leader
  4. Look at the overall picture. Genesis 12:1 (KJV) 12 Now the Lord had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will shew thee: – You got to be able to fill in the detail. It’s all about the destination, the fulfilled purpose.
    1. Destination – You are going to Los Angeles and you buy your ticket online. All though you destination is to Los Angeles, you can’t just pick up and go. There are some details that have to be fulfilled before you go. You have things like luggage, packing, driving to the airport, passing security, and boarding the plane ahead of you. All these things have to not only be done, they have to be done by a certain time, because the airline has a schedule as to when they will depart from the airport. If you have not planned properly, as a result, you get to the gate late and you may miss your opportunity to travel to your destination. The is plane leaving on a schedule to your destination. The plane is not going to wait, just because you are late! Just because you got your ticket (your word from God), doesn’t guarantee you a flight to your destination. You have details to take care of first. Don’t miss your window of opportunity. If you don’t fill in the details, you may arrive to a closed window.
  5. Determine what needs to be accomplished. Start with the end in mind. The whole point is to make it to your destination and to accomplish what you set out to do. It is important that when begin a task, you start with end in mind. Ask questions like, how will this impact my family or how will this affect my destiny?
  6. Set goals. Lot’s of people don’t set goals out of fear of rejection, fear of failure, or fear of criticism.
    1. Set goals in harmony with spiritual values. Habakkuk 2:2 (KJV) 2 And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.
  7. Knot that your goals should be in agreement with natural gifts and talents.
  8. Know that your goals in life should be two-dimensional. This means that your goals should first give glory to God and secondly, bless other people.
  9. Goals must not conflict with your life’s purpose. Bishop shares that he had an opportunity to do a TV show once and it would have been very profitable to do it. He chose not to, because it did not line up with his purpose. Since it didn’t line up with his purpose, he felt that God wouldn’t have blessed it.
  10. Establish objectives to meet goals. Proverbs 21:5 (KJV) 5 The thoughts of the diligent tend only to plenteousness; but of every one that is hasty only to want.- Leaders are planners. People that don’t plan are always behind. Plan everything. You have to plan to live and plan to die.
  11. Develop a strategic plan. Luke 14:28 (KJV) says 28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? – When you do something, factor everything in. Count the cost.
  12. Set reasonable expectations. It takes time. Evaluate your progress. Galatians 6:4 (KJV) says 4 But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.- Look at what you accomplished and challenge yourself.
  13. Know that you will have haters, but know that a hater is a person who is jealous. The problem with being jealous is a jealous person has put themselves underneath the person that they are jealous of.

Make room for the miraculous

  1. After you prepare, pray and make room for the miraculous. If it don’t work the way it’s supposed to, leave room for God to work.

Transcend one dimensional thinking.

 

Philippians 2:5 (NKJV) says 5 Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus- There was a time that low thinking people didn’t bother you, now you can’t this type of thinking around you. This means you are growing. When you understand your destiny, your conversation starts to challenge yourself.

  1. Follow the shifts of God. Exodus 13:20-22 (KJV) says 20 And they took their journey from Succoth, and encamped in Etham, in the edge of the wilderness. 21 And the Lord went before them by day in a pillar of a cloud, to lead them the way; and by night in a pillar of fire, to give them light; to go by day and night: 22 He took not away the pillar of the cloud by day, nor the pillar of fire by night, from before the people.- The children of Israel were led by cloud by day and fire by night. In like manner, you should be so connected to God, that even if everyone else moves, you won’t move until the cloud moves!
    1. 1 Corinthians 12:7 (NKJV) 7 But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to each one for the profit of all: – Whatever God has done in your life, it wasn’t for you, it was to profit other people.
    2. Romans 8:19 (NKJV) says 19 For the earnest expectation of the creation eagerly waits for the revealing of the sons of God. – You were born with a purpose, to solve a problem in the earth. The earth is waiting for you to get up and do it! You got to recognize something is groaning in the earth until you manifest your gift.

 

10 words you need to know as a leader

  1. Passion –Whatever you are over, start it with passion. You won’t commit to a thing without passion.
  2. Purpose – Once you have passion, purpose holds the passion together.
  3. Preparation – After you have purpose, you prepare for it.
  4. Priorities – Spiritual people are focused on priority. Matthew 6:33 (KJV) says 33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
  5. Partnership – Priorities will cause you to connect with the right people.
  6. Positioning – When you connect to the right people, this means that doors will open for you. Some doors will never open for you, because of the people you got to you. Know that you are the sum of the top 5 people in your life.
  7. Persistence – This the person that is on time, diligent, and always operating in excellence. Because of these things, you are getting attention as a leader.
  8. Productive – If you are persistent, you start producing fruit.
  9. Persecution – Now that you are producing fruit, the devil comes after you. If you are under demonic attack, then it is a good indication that God is has something for you to do.
  10. Perseverance – After all the devil throws at you, you are still steadfast, unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord. This means that you lead while you bleed. Because you come through all the trials and hard times that you have, you have become the leader that you have become.

God wants to manifest the leader in you!

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