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Killer Sex Part III, Bible Study 04/15/09
Killer Sex Part III
Bible Study 04/15/09
Breaking the spirit of pornography and sexual addiction
Delivered by Bishop Walker
Pornography can create unhealthy relationships. Research shows 40% – 50% of rapists use porn to arouse themselves before they attack. Statistically pornography is an 8 billion dollar a year business. Statistics show that 17.5 million Web surfers visit porn sites per month. Last year, Web surfers spent 970 million dollars accessing porn sites. About 70% of porn ends up in the hands of minors. 1.12 million children each year are exploited in child pornography.
These were a few statistics, but the truth is, pornography, is a serious issue. It is important that research is brought to you so you can see how serious this issue can be. There are two ways that people look at addiction. Science says addiction is a disease of the brain. They have medicine now that is s supposed to bring down the desire of a person’s addiction. There are some people that think addiction is simply a lack of discipline. Spiritually we must know no matter what you think is right between the two, it ends up still a battle that starts in the mind. The mind is the battle ground that all of our issues start from. This happens to be Satan’s favorite place to launch his attack.
There is something about that look that you gave someone that is bad as the act itself. 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Matt 5:28 (KJV).
We are not intentional about putting evil into our lives. 3 I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me. Psalms 101:3 (KJV). When you intentionally set something in your view, it creates a problem.
Pornography comes from the Greek word porneia. This word is translated as fornication in the King James Version of the Bible. Porneuo which is the verb form of this same word refers to the act of committing fornication. The word Porne is translated as harlot. This simply implies that you can’t have porn without a whore or harlot being involved. Whore in its use can be applied to the male gender as well as the female gender. In order to have pornography, the whore must be the star. The whore then seduces you to become a whore also. One scripture tells us that being a whoremonger can cause us to miss heave. 5 For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Eph 5:5 (KJV). Some more supporting scriptures are as follows: 10 For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine; 1 Tim 1:10 (KJV), 4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Heb 13:4 (KJV), 8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. Rev 21:8 (KJV),
Many lustful sins take place in dark the dark or in secret, but nothing is hidden from God. After all of the hiding you have done, remember God saw it. 13 Nothing in all creation can hide from him. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes. This is the God to whom we must explain all that we have done Heb 4:13 (NLT)-God sees it all.
The sin of pornography will eventually lead to you getting caught. 23 But if ye will not do so, behold, ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out. Num 32:23 (KJV). Adultery and pornography will get you caught. You can’t hide it.
What does pornography do us?
1. Makes you minimize your vessel. 18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 1 Cor 6:17-18 (KJV) -pornography makes one sin against its own body. We think we are taking when we deal with pornography, be actually we are really withdrawing from ourselves. 19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s 1 Cor 6:19-20 (KJV).
2. Your body doesn’t belong to you. Your body belongs to God. Pornography causes your flesh to want to do its own thing. The Holy Spirit in you tries to stop you, but your flesh wants to turn the Holy Ghost in you off. You can’t give the Holy Ghost a recess. The Holy Ghost is great in you, much greater than the world.
What’s wrong with looking
1. Saw is a word we must examine. The issue is not what we see, but what we saw. When we see something, we see it and it’s gone or forgotten. When we saw something, it means what we saw stayed on our mind. We are still recalling it. Now we hope that what we saw shows up again. Ex-You saw somebody last week and now you hope that they come back again this week. Whatever occupies mental space is what we consider “saw”. In the saw state, we have to realize that the thing we saw impacted us and has taken on mental space in our mind. Genesis 34:2 -After he laid his eyes on her, he saw and then he acted.
2. David ended up sleeping with a married woman and had children with her, because of what he saw. 2 And it came to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked upon the roof of the king’s house: and from the roof he saw a woman washing herself; and the woman was very beautiful to look upon. 3 And David sent and enquired after the woman. And one said, Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite? 4 And David sent messengers, and took her; and she came in unto him, and he lay with her; for she was purified from her uncleanness: and she returned unto her house. 5 And the woman conceived, and sent and told David, and said, I am with child. 2 Sam 11:2-5 (KJV)
3. When a victim doesn’t get help, they become a Villain. 15 When Judah saw her, he thought her to be an harlot; because she had covered her face. 16 And he turned unto her by the way, and said, Go to, I pray thee, let me come in unto thee; (for he knew not that she was his daughter in law.) And she said, What wilt thou give me, that thou mayest come in unto me? Gen 38:15-16 (KJV)
4. Samson loved whores. 1 Then went Samson to Gaza, and saw there an harlot, and went in unto her. Judges 16:1 (KJV)
a. We know this because Samson admitted that the woman he met satisfied his condition. 2 And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife. 3 Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well. Judges 14:2-3 (KJV)
Power of image
1. The eye gate takes the picture, but it is developed on the mind. 2 And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife. 3 Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well. Judges 14:2-3 (KJV). The enemy creates fantasies, and then you have to distinguish it from fantasy to reality. Then you start moving pornography into the reality. There are people that are having sexual relationships with you that you haven’t even met. People have imaginations and the eye and the mind is where it begins. Ex-There is a woman that is a wife and her husband is at the computer getting their head full of images with porn for example. Now he needs the wife to do what he sees this image doing. The wife tries to accommodate her husband’s request, because in a marriage the bed is not defiled. Anything goes as long as both agree and it does not bring any kind of harm to the other person. Now a problem has arisen. The wife has found that it is hard to compete with a whore (in the porn). This is another reason why you should why we need to converse about each other’s likes and dislikes, before marriage. Now the husband goes back over to the image and then returns to his wife. As a result, the husband is having relationship with the wife, but not really, because the image in his head is giving him desires that his wife can’t realistically meet. She can’t meet these expectations, because this is not who she is. Now the relationship has gotten desensitized and as a result they are growing apart instead of growing together.
2. What are we going to do when we have this issue caused by porn? Most people end up masturbating. What pornography wants you to do is masturbate or fornicate. Your image will not stay in your mind. It is too big a spirit. It will want to get out. Ex-There has been a common debate among Pastors. The debate is this. Is masturbation wrong? Think about it. We are taught they we are not supposed to fornicate, but we still have these images in our head that cause us to want to have sex. What do we do if we can’t fornicate? The fact of the matter is this; the only way to masturbate is you have to have an image. When you masturbate and you have an image, the image is a problem. There is a scripture that helps us with this issue; 9 And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother’s wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother. 10 And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also. Gen 38:9-10 (KJV) -We don’t know if you will go to hell for masturbating, but we do know the guy in the scripture died from allowing his seed to spill on the ground. What do you think about this issue now?
10 principles to follow to avoid pornography and sex addictions
1. Acknowledge that addiction exists. 13 He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy. Prov 28:13 (KJV)
2. Know that God will help you
3. Recognize that what you are doing is wrong. (Don’t try to justify it). 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. 1 John 2:16-17 (KJV)
4. Don’t blame others. (Ex- “If my wife did this more, I wouldn’t do that…”) 12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. Gen 3:12 (KJV)
5. Make yourself accountable to spiritual authority. 16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. James 5:16 (KJV)
6. Recognize that will power is not the answer. 24 Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, Jude 1:24 (KJV)
7. Study God’s word on sexual maturity and destroy all pornography in your house. 24 For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. James 1:24 (KJV). -You got to get that pornography out of your house. It is hard to study God’s word if you have these spirits in your house.
8. Learn to flee temptation. 14 Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men. 15 Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it, and pass away. Prov 4:14-15 (KJV). -Ex-There was this athlete recently that was explaining the subject,” addictions in athletes”. He explained how his teammates unknowingly enabled him in his addiction. You have to know that there are some things you can’t be around.
9. Give yourself time to work through the process of recovery. This is a marathon not a sprint. 12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. Phil 2:12 (KJV). . The truth is 95% of people would be good Christians if it wasn’t for the issue of sex. 10. Got to be determined to get deliverance.
7 steps process of deliverance
1. Faith in practice. 23 Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth. Mark 9:22-23 (KJV), 20 But wilt thou know, O vain man, that faith without works is dead? James 2:20 (KJV) -if you have faith with no practice, it will not work. We believe you can lay hands on people and they can be healed, but you need to be willing to get counseling too. We have to realize that people want a quick fix and are not willing to put in the work it takes to get delivered these days. We have to put our faith in practice.
2. Fasting and prayer- 29 And he said unto them, This kind can come forth by nothing, but by prayer and fasting. Mark 9:29 (KJV) -Although people have come up with different forms of fasting, the real form is really fasting from food. When you fast from food, you put your body into subjection. When you fast from food, you are saying though you feel like you can’t make it, you know the Spirit of God will sustain you. Through fasting, you are teaching your body to come under subjection. When you abstain (from food), so you can sustain (as a result of relying on God), you hear from God like never before.
3. Fellowship with the right people. 14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 2 Cor 6:14 (KJV). You got to change your crowd.
4. Forgive your past. There are things from your past that have caused you to act out in many ways. You have to learn to forgive those people who caused these issues from your past. 44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; Matt 5:44 (KJV) – If you don’t deal with your past, you won’t obtain deliverance.
5. Focus on the path. 1 Therefore seeing we have this ministry, as we have received mercy, we faint not; 2 Cor 4:1 (KJV) -, 1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Heb 12:1 (KJV) -If we focus on the path, we are focusing on our assignment.
6. Be fruitful in your purpose. 16 Howbeit for this cause I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern to them which should hereafter believe on him to life everlasting. 1 Tim 1:16 (KJV) -Stay busy. The busier you stay, the less time you have to deal with have for foolishness. Some people will tell you that staying busy will sometimes keep you out of a mess.
7. Fight for the promise. 4 Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust. 2 Peter 1:4 (KJV) – God spoke an abundance of things in our lives. The devil is trying to change the channel on this. Ex- It is like watching a good movie and all of a sudden somebody comes in and changes the channel. You might say, “I was watching that!” Satan is hoping that you will change your mind once you see the channel he wants you to see.
All this is nothing but spiritual warfare. It is a fight for your future, mind, family, etc… Your generational curse can end now if you fight. 4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; 2 Cor 10:4-5 (KJV). It can end now, but it takes the willingness to confront your issue.
Killer Sex II, Bible Study 04/08/09
Killer Sex II
“Trick of fornication and trap the of adultery”
Bible Study 04/08/09
Delivered by Bishop Walker III
Everyone knows fornication and adultery is wrong, so we will not elaborate on that. Knowing this, the issue really becomes, how does it impact me? This helps me put in perspective what the enemy was after when he attacked.
Definitions
Fornication: Comes from Greek word, pornia. This makes up part of our word pornography. This is simply sexual intercourse between two consenting adults who are not married to each other
Adultery: Comes from the Greek word, moicheia. It means unlawful intercourse with another persons’ wife or husband.
Homosexuality: One who lies with a male was with a female, male or vice versa. 9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 1 Cor 6:9 (KJV); 10 For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine; 1 Tim 1:10 (KJV)
Beastality: To lie or have sex with an animal. 23 Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion. Lev 18:23 (KJV)
Lewdness: Comes from the Greek word, aselgeia. This is the absence of restraint. It is the being unable to sustain from the pleasures of sex and over desire for pleasure. 13 Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying. Romans 13:13 (KJV). Lewdness is the act of being involved with sexual acts without boundaries. This is a person that has allowed Satan to pull them into sexual immoral situations. Ex-Like that woman that is in the club and has gotten drunk and now everyone is dancing around her and it looks like they might as well be having sex. She has put herself in a situation for immoral sexual activity to take place.
God intended sex to be held within the institution of marriage. 4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Heb 13:4 (KJV). Sex is supposed to be a good thing. In marriage, sexuality was intended to be beautiful. Sex is supposed to be recreation and re – creation. In other words we were supposed to recreate to populate the world and re-create meaning we are always renewing the adventures within the marital relationship sexually.
I. What harm does fornication cause?
Ex-Bishop Walker states he was not always a person that was free from fornication. He explains that he too has struggled with fornication prior to his call to the ministry.
What is the big deal with fornication?
1. It destroys the body. Sexually transmitted disease is one dilemma that comes from fornication. When you fornicate, you open yourself up to stuff you would not normally open yourself up to. This is why some people have to be nervous when it is time for the blood test.
2. It distorts the mind. This is why the devil tries to attack us sexually in our earlier years. The devil knows that if he can distort your mind based on your earlier experiences, he can mess you up in your later years. The majority of people who are struggling with homosexuality, being promiscuous, and other sexual challenges will tell you that something happened to them when they were young. They have all had some kind of sexual complication at a young age.
3. It destroys the soul. 11 Afterward you will groan in anguish when disease consumes your body, 12 and you will say, “How I hated discipline! If only I had not demanded my own way! Prov 5:11-12 (NLT)-People involved in fornication get consumed with guilt, and then they don’t want to be in church anymore. The enemy wants to put you in isolation so that you won’t grow spiritually. Satan uses your guilt to keep you from the word which takes away your spiritual strength. 30 Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; 31 But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house. 32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. 33 A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. 34 For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. 35 He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts. Prov 6:30-35 (KJV). When a man or woman commits adultery or fornication, their soul is destroyed. When your soul is destroyed, your soul goes to hell instead of heaven when you pass away. Imagine heaven in its entire splendor. Imagine being in the presence of God always and being somewhere that the streets paved with gold and to think we would give all that up over a piece (fornication).
II. God’s intent for sexuality has to be understood
1. God originally intended for man and woman to be equal. 26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. Gen 1:26 (KJV) Sexual intercourse was undistorted by sin.
2. God intended sex to result in populating the earth.28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. Gen 1:28 (KJV) – In this scripture, God was saying fill up the earth.
3. Biological and social counterparts and compliments.
a. God wanted us to have something to compliment us. God wanted sex to be a means of complimenting you.
b. God said he would make something biologically and socially compatible for man. 18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Gen 2:18 (KJV). When Adam named the animals, Adam found that there was nothing compatible for him. The animals were lower than Adam. When you lie with dogs, you will get up with flees. God never intended for you to hook up with something that is lower than yourself.
4. Monogamous relationships and marriage. 23 “At last!” Adam exclaimed. “She is part of my own flesh and bone! She will be called `woman,’ because she was taken out of a man.” 24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Gen 2:23-24 (NLT). God ordained the institution of marriage. Adam and Eve were united as one.
5. Physical exposure without shame. 9 And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou? 10 And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. 11 And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? Gen 3:9-11 (KJV). Before sin, nakedness was not a shameful thing. Remember in Genesis 2, Adam and Eve was naked and not ashamed. In Gen 3:10 God came looking for Adam and found them hiding and ashamed. What sin does is make you live your life covering up. Anytime there is adultery or fornication, there is a cover up. People that have affairs have to keep covering things up. They hide their phones; go to bathroom to talk on the phone, and etc. Sin makes you ashamed of what you are doing.
6. Remember the devil comes to seek, kill, and destroy. He tricked Eve into allowing sin to enter into this world (when she ate the fruit off the tree). This brought about distortion of sexuality.
7. Distortion of sexuality. Satan distorted sexuality in the fall of man. Now there come gender dominance.
8. Gender dominance- 16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. Gen 3:16 (KJV). Women weren’t supposed to have labor pains. Sin brought this into the word and her punishment included her desires being that of her husband who would rule over her.
9. Women were regarded as property. If you go back in the Old Testament, you will find that women were regarded as property. When Sarah found she was barren, she told Abraham to go and lay with her handmaid, Hagar. It was like the maiden was just a piece of property. 2 And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai. Gen 16:2 (KJV)
10. Women valued primarily for procreative ability-Samuel’s mother went to temple to pray about her barrenness. She thought something was wrong with her. 7 Year after year it was the same—Peninnah would taunt Hannah as they went to the Tabernacle. Hannah would finally be reduced to tears and would not even eat. 8 “What’s the matter, Hannah?” Elkanah would ask. “Why aren’t you eating? Why be so sad just because you have no children? You have me—isn’t that better than having ten sons?” 1 Sam 1:7-8 (NLT). A woman was not held of high value if she could not bear children.
11. Sex viewed as a mechanical act. Some people can be involved with sex and have no feelings involved. It is all about physical satisfaction. This was another cause of sex being distorted.
12. Tolerant of male extra marital activities. Immoral sex makes you tolerant of people cheating within the marriage institution.
We must note that there is a culture wrapped around this bible that we read today. The bible is a portion of history. If you understand the influences that operated in the background, you would understand how sex crept into the church. Israel always went after pagan gods. These things that were worshipped had no life. Throughout history of the bible, there was always trouble with people worshipping idols. Because of sin and the worship of these idol gods, sin infiltrated even the New Testament Church. Artamus, the daughter of Zeus, was mythical, but believed in by members of the Old Testament time. Diana was the chastity goddess. Aphrodite the goddess of love sex was different gods that were worshipped at the same time Christianity was being introduced.
The whole time that Jesus was going through every element of his ministry; this idle worship was going in the backdrop of the Christian faith. They had orgies in some temples and there were temple prostitutes. When you see where these scriptures that we read today came from, then you get a better understanding of the reason they are there. We still have a form of temple prostitutes in church today. These are people that try to pick up men from church. They do this because of the spirit inside of them.
III. What can adultery cost?
1. Your wealth. 7 So now, my sons, listen to me. Never stray from what I am about to say: 8 Run from her! Don’t go near the door of her house! 9 If you do, you will lose your honor and hand over to merciless people everything you have achieved in life. Prov 5:7-9 (NLT)-You may have money now, but when you get involved with adultery, you eventually get caught, you get divorced, and you will lose your case, and as a result you have to pay. Then you find that people will be living in the house that your money bought. This is all a result of trying to get piece.
2. Cost you your home. 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Matt 19:3-6 (KJV)-. When God brought you together, there was a purpose in marriage. God said when you let somebody come between you and your marriage; it means that you have made them bigger than his covenant. Marriage is a covenant. Some people that are married try to justify their actions by questioning whether God really brought the marriage together. When you come to the alter and allow the preacher to pronounce you man and wife, you need to be sure. You are entering a covenant. There are some churches folk that are guilty of urging people to get married that are not sure. These same people often wish they would have waited themselves. When you come together in marriage, it is supposed to be forever.
3. Adultery costs you your family. You don’t understand the impact divorce has on your children. It takes a child 10-15 yrs to get past the divorce of their parents. After while you see them acting crazy and looking for a daddy in a man and etc… Marriage is bigger than you.
4. Can cost you your reputation. 14 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly. Prov 5:14 (KJV). There are some folk that just wait for the opportunity to see you doing something wrong. Adultery can tarnish your reputation. ; 27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Prov 6:27 (KJV)-We tried to convince our self we can manage fornication and adultery. We know what fornication is, so what we do is play with fire? We convince our self only if we don’t have intercourse, then we have done nothing wrong. We think we are cool, because we didn’t jump totally in. We just went to the edge of the cliff. Next week, we get even closer to the edge. Now you start changing the boundary. We think it is not that bad, because we are in the shallow so to speak. Next week, the boundary is changing even more. Now you are in at your knees and next your waist. We still think we have it under control and we keep resetting the boundaries. Next you are in this think called adultery up to our neck and you convince yourself that you can still see Jesus and it is not too late yet. You don’t realize how deep you are in at this point. Then you look at folk that are trying to help you as people who trying to judge you. These people are simple trying to throw you a life line before it is too late. You look up and the waves are coming in and before you know it, you realize you haven’t been to church, haven’t prayed, or read your bible in a long while. This all happened, because you started on the edge and just kept getting deeper and deeper into adultery. Some people are so involved they leave straight from church and dive right into the deep end.
IV. 5 ways you can prevent fornication and adultery:
1. Guard you mind. 6 Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee: love her, and she shall keep thee. Prov 4:6 (KJV). Every act of sexuality started in your mind. It is sensual. It is in your mind,
2. Guard your heart. 10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:10 (KJV); 7 Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire. Jude 1:7 (KJV)-Samson told what was on his heart., 12 For the which cause I also suffer these things: nevertheless I am not ashamed: for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day. 2 Tim 1:11-12 (KJV), 6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Phil 4:5-7 (KJV)-Tell god you need some help. When you look back at the people that broke your heart, you realize that they should have never had access to your heart in the first place. This is where the enemy wants to launch his attack.
3. Guard your mouth. 29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Eph 4:29 (KJV)-you got to be careful of the stuff you use. The devil will use foul language to pull you in. You got to be careful! The devil will throw out a nasty statement to you, and get you to take the bait. For Example: “You can’t handle this”. “I, bet I can”. The next thing you know, you have to find yourself in a position that you have to prove yourself. When you get caught, you say you were just talking. The truth is, you were involved in adultery emotionally long before it happened physically. Many have had affairs mentally. The physical act is just the manifestation of the adultery that has already been created in your mind.
4. Guard your body. 1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. Romans 12:1 (KJV)- Your body has been sacrificed for (by Christ dying on Calvary). Your body does not belong to you. Ex- As a pastor of big church, Bishop Walker says he still shakes hands. He explains he promised God he would always do this. As a result he has intercessors to cover him, because some people are to transfer spirits. Spirits do transfer. When you sleep with someone, you can inherit their spirits good and bad.
5. Guard your future- 11 For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. Psalms 84:11 (KJV) -If we walk upright, what he has for us, he will give us. The best way to understand this is with this analogy.
There is a couple that is about to be married. They have been to counseling and everything appears to be going well, but imagine if the spirit of the groom is able to step outside of himself and tell this story…
I was 12 yrs old when I had my first sexual experience. I wasn’t anything big, but it just kind of happened (this girl starts a line of spirits). When I was 15, the guys tease me about not getting none and I eventually in up getting with a girl done the street (now her spirit enters the line).When I was 17, I wasn’t going to leave the prom without a story so I had another sexual encounter (her spirit enters the line). When I went to college I saw this honey when I was just a freshman and so I had another encounter (keep in mind, every represents another spirit in my line of spirits). I had another encounter when I became a Junior in college. She was just a study partner, but it was too late for her to leave and about 4 in the morning, I had another encounter. I didn’t tell her I like her roommate too, so that was another sexual encounter. I graduate from college, get my first job, first condo and I am doing it and then I have another encounter. Now I am 24 and I got this situation with this chick and wham, I have another encounter even though I am in church. Now here I am at the altar with this innocent young lady about to marry her and I look back and I have all these spirits in my long line of spirits that are about to marry her too.
3 months into the relationship, I wonder what has gone wrong? There are a piece of all those spirits in my long line of spirits that I want to be found in my new wife, but this is not fair. This is not who she is. Now I find myself in ungodly padlock instead of holy wedlock. How can I rid myself of these spirits? My first encounter was when I was twelve. I haven’t seen her in years, but she is still in me. What do I do? Lord we are sorry for hurting these people. We were having fun, but now I can’t love right now, because these sprits are causing me to put expectations my wife that she had nothing to do with.
All we have to do is ask the Lord to forgive us and make us whole and one by one day by day, these spirits will us and then we will begin to understand what was meant when the scripture says come to me all that are heavy laden. I know you are thinking, how long is your line? If you surrender to God, it doesn’t matter. God will set you free.
